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The next time you have an urge to call someone “baboy” or criticize someone’s looks because they married a foreigner and you didn’t (I am not a wood carving), think about this news anchor from La Crosse, Wisconsin, who took to the air to blast someone who criticized her weight via e-mail.
And by the way, I think Jennifer Livingston is pretty.

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highlysuggestive

This is Ron Livingston’s sister  !! (Berger on SATC)

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he may have “good intentions” but IMO it was not his place to tell her. ’cause you know what? he doesn’t know her. the lady runs/exercises but she suffers from a thyroid problem so it’s difficult for her to lose weight (her husband said that in Good Morning America).

so good for her for standing up for herself.

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TC Reply:

Weight is hard to control with a thyroid problem.  You gain faster than you could lose.

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TC

Weight is hard to control with a thyroid problem.  You gain faster than you could lose.

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Terry

you said “maybe she needed to be shamed’? isn’t shaming someone a form of bullying?

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i gained 10 lbs since last year. people who havent’ seen me for a while would always comment about my weight first. some would even repeat their observation for everyone to hear. i am tempted to say, “ang mataba puede pang pumayat, pero ang pangit, hindi na gaganda” 

btw, can i share this on FB?

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CVS Reply:

surely

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Guest

That is true, everyone wants to conform with what the society dictates and I understand that you went through very tough times. But my point is, you cannot tell everyone to be careful with their words… You cannot control how others will think of you or what they will say to you. Not everyone knows how to respect other people – and that is their problem not yours. So what we should all learn to believe in ourselves rather than believing and being affected by what other people might say – because at the end of the day we should be the… Read more »

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jukebox

It’s amazing that we can’t even agree if this is bullying or not.

We should all be reminded though that polite and politically correct words can be deceiving.

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CVS Reply:

yes to this

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Guest

While to a certain extent, it is the responsibility of someone in the public eye to maintain their appearance, there is no call for anyone to insult this newscaster for who/what she is without knowing her specific circumstances.
Its her life and her body. If she does not want to lose weight, and her weight is not impeding her from doing her job, then no one has the right to pass judgment on her.

Live and let live.

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mrs.c

I am fat. Like 20-25 lbs heavier than my I am comfortable with. Malaking bulas ako and I am always the big one among my friends. I am married and I gained more because of pills but I live in Scandinavia so i feel not so fat compare to them. (Lol) I make fun of myself also, kasi accepted ko naman na I am fat. I maybe a overweight but I do exercise/jog every day (then i eat good yummy food after) i have regular check ups just to see if I am healthy and no diabetes or heart problems.… Read more »

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Naku! Like may mga local actors na sobrang payat na. Minsan akala ng young generation, okay lang maging kasing payat nila to the point of risking their health para ma-achieve yun skinny figure!

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Markzbyu

I think he voiced it in a dignified manner. Whether he should have voiced it or not is the question. … But a lot of things go unheard these days. … Roughly 69% of Americans are obese or overweight. She’s one of them. Don’t be a statistic. I’m hoping she’ll do so something about it. No matter how successful you are, it’ll only be short lived if you are obese. Why live until 50 if you can live till 80.

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This comment came from a friend who’s just killing time watching TV and made this observation.
“Mari Ramos, the CNN meteorologist should lose weight. She’s covering the entire South China Sea with her body.”
So I think the man who sent the email to the newscaster wrote a tactful note compared to what really goes inside their heads.

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Angelique

This is way over reacting.
The email was kind.
He was just pointing out the plain truth, and there was no name-calling.
Obesity is what it is.

If this happened in France (where I live), the news reporter would probably give a Gallic shrug and move on without having to make such a huge hee haw over the comment … which made the scene even bigger.

Just as how people should receive compliments gracefully, they should also accept criticism with dignity and discretion.

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I have a bully of an aunt who kept picking on me every time I attend the family reunion. She knows I’m gay and she would always blurt out loudly “O, Jude, kailan ka mag-aasawa?” I finally got fed up and when the time came she had to pop that question again, I told her loudly “Sorry Tita, hindi ko pa kasi nakikita yung tamang lalaking pakakasalan ko.” And it stopped from then on.

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Bridget

I’m overweight and have struggled with this problem for years. When people call me fat or point out how unhealthy I am, it hurts my feelings. I understand what Jennifer feels, that no matter what you have achieved in life, even if you are a kind person, there will be people out there who will see you only as a fat person. Would you believe, I describe myself as overweight because the word ‘fat’ is just too hurtful. Those who commented here who dismissed Jennifer’s feelings do not know what we overweight people have to go through. It’s a kind… Read more »

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Ana Maria Zamora

The guy didn’t sound rude to me – I kinda even feel bad for him cos she replied to his private email through TV 🙁 He’s kawawa cos he doesn’t sound like he has bad intentions

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Ana Maria Zamora Reply:

She said it was an attack and it didn’t even sound like an attack! There are way worse haters out there 

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teadrinker Reply:

I can relate to her. Putting labels on others can be hurtful and offensive. Bigotry, plain and simple.

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Ana Maria Zamora

She said it was an attack and it didn’t even sound like an attack! There are way worse haters out there 

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Guest

I can relate to her. Putting labels on others can be hurtful and offensive. Bigotry, plain and simple.

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Guest

I on the other hand found these comments as a motivation. You know you cannot please everyone but if someone says you gained a lot of weight – makes me double check if I really am. If i dont think I did then I dont give a damn but if it is indeed true, then I do something about it. But I never became anorexic nor bulimic. You know you cannot control other people, but you can control yourself.   [Reply]Nina Reply:October 4th, 2012 at 2:32 AMNot everyone can though. People w/ Hypothyroidism, Cushing’s Syndrome and Polycistic Ovarian Syndrome cannot control… Read more »

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Not everyone can though. People w/ Hypothyroidism, Cushing’s Syndrome and Polycistic Ovarian Syndrome cannot control their weight gain. Even w/ diet and exercise. And thats just naming a few possible physiological causes of weight gain or the inability to lose weight.

Know your facts before making sweeping statements of what people can and cant do.

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Are you saying that people cannot control themselves? This in in reference to how a person feels by the way. I am not referring to losing weight when I said, “You know you cannot control other people, but you can control yourself” I was referring to a person’s mindset. 

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Try and read again, please. I said there are some people who cannot control weight gain because of conditions/illnesses they may have.

Sure, you can control your mindset. You can have the will to lose weight. But if your own body prevents you from doing such, the will goes away pretty fast.

As ive said, there are ilnesses and medications that can stop people from losing weight, or make them gain weight.

That clear enough for you? Or should I explain again?

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thank you :))

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Christine

at the end of the day, she’s still fat and needs to lose weight. 

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forsakinghalfloves

People deserve basic humanity, respect, and privacy, regardless of their weight, health status, and, since the letter sender brought it up, their job.

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the news anchor appears on tv every day and if her viewers feel unfavorable with her appearance, I think the producer and she should take the comment objectively. no matter how politically correct we are, the bottom line is we have to like what we see on tv or we just switch channel.  I like sharon cuneta but she has let herself go and watching her on her show is just too painful, esp if she has guests who are young and pretty, i mean, she looks like everyone’s mother. just saying.

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I understand, but that is the main reason why there are special schools which which established to cater to these children. I mean,  the problem of some parents is that they do not want to accept that their child/children have some special needs. I have a relative who is – her child had problems since it was a baby, a lot of people advised her to have the child checked since the child cannot concentrate at all and may have a case of ADHD – she did not want to accept it, and never had the child looked upon by… Read more »

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jukebox

“I understand, but that is the main reason why there are special schools which were established to cater to these children.” Woah. Wait. I’m not sure how the Philippines is doing in terms of integrating individuals with disorders in the society so I’m really appalled by this view. I live in a country where people with or without disorders live, study, and work in the same environment. How can you expect people with these conditions to be able to adapt if you keep them apart from the ones without the disorder? To say that they have their own school anyway… Read more »

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That is why there are special education teachers. Its not just in the Philippines I believe. And shy should you be appalled? You know not all children learn the same way – some are specially good in art but can hardly get to concentrate when it comes to math or science. And they adapt well in society because their self esteem is being established making them have a sense of what they are really good at compared to when they have to compete with children who learn the traditional way. I had a boss who had a child dyslexia –… Read more »

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I am appalled that you think its OK to segregate people w/ disabilities from mainstream education. Carrying your argument one step forward, do you also think fat people should live in an island by themselves?

Your lack of tolerance shows in every word you type.

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Fat people does not have disorders. I have been talking about special children who needs special education btw which tradiational schools cannot cater to.

and “lack of tolerance” of what? sorry i did not get that.

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Fat people do have “disorders”. There are illnesses that can cause people to be “fat”, as you so nicely put it. 

Mainstreaming in Education – look it up and learn.

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Maybe we should also segregate people with the likes of Pink instead.

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This is the problem with society. Everyone wants to conform and be part of what is mainstream. This is the reason why everyone wants to be thin. This is the reason why everyone feels obliged to listen to what other people say about them. People always wants to be part of this “crowd”.

I do not need to be segregated to a different crowd because I willingly segregate myself. I rarely care about what other people say about me if I dont think of myself the same way. I am not afraid to be different, and in fact, I even prefer it that way. 

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Uhm that newscaster in the video certainly is not conforming. Shes standing up for herself.

Clearly, you dont get the issue at hand. Its not education for special needs children, nor is it your segregation of yourself. Its about fat shaming.

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For sure. LOL!

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jukebox

The problem is right there in your reply. Regular schools do not cater for people with these disorders and ecourage segregation. I guess the Philippines hasn’t made a lot of progress yet in this regard.

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That is true. Sometimes, teachers does not even recognize the fact that a certain child has certain needs which needs to be addressed. That happened in an exclusive school already, how much more in public schools where in one class is composed of less than a hundred students (of different grade)?

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Im sorry what? Segregate children with disabilities? Rather backward view, dont you think?  So essentially, its not only fat people who are shunned by Filipino society, but people who are differently abled as well.

Stop the sweeping generalizations, if you please. Its not doing you any favors.

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theicecrumbs

Since she’s already defending herself, sana nagbigay man lang siya ng indication that she’s actually taking the steps to be healthy (pero siguro off topic na ‘yun?). I applaud her for standing up against bullies, but it doesn’t end there. Defining your self-worth also includes knowing that a hamburger and french fries 3x a day, 5 days a week just doesn’t work. We should should fight for ourselves but we should also take responsibility for our actions. Pero as I said, baka off topic na ‘yun at wala nang time. Hehe.

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www.chickything.com

Bat may nagmura? Did i miss something?

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There are a lot of bullies, not just now, but ever since this world has probably began, but what parents and children nowadays fail to do is learn how to cope up with these situations reasonably. The internet has just made the situation more publicly known but it has going on for decades! Even i was bullied when I was a kid, but did I cry? No, I was taught by my parents to hold my self up and prove to those bullies otherwise. But now, parents fight for their children instead of teaching how their children to “fight”. Instead… Read more »

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Carlie

Comments on weight gain is so typical of Filipinos. “Ay, bakit tumaba ka?” or “Ang taba mo ngayon ah.” Well, to me it’s not acceptable. I don’t think being polite and not saying anything automatically promotes unhealthy living and obesity.  We should all know our place. If the person isn’t somebody close to us, then shut up. For all we know the person’s struggling with it and is already addressing the situation. Or the person might be sick or is under a lot of stress.  Or, the person might have also let go and decided to eat to his or… Read more »

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mich

why are people applauding this? the man was not a bully. he didn’t call her names, he was actually very polite. blunt, but still polite. he didn’t post it publicly on his facebook page or anything, it was a private letter. what he is saying is true, being obese is not healthy and he was actually concerned for her and the people who watch her show. her going out being all defensive like this gives out the wrong message that it’s okay to be obese. stop fat sympathy, people. [Reply]Jules Reply:October 3rd, 2012 at 1:16 PMI bet not all people… Read more »

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Jules

I bet not all people are applauding this. Each person has a different opinion. It just so happens that this news anchor lady has her own. It happens to be about relating the letter to bullying. She clearly stated it is not about her kaya siya nagcocomment. She’s already thick skinned, literally and otherwise, as she said. Sabi nga nya keber na siya sa mga ganyang comments sknya. What she is pointing out is the attitude it can pass on to the younger people. The danger it can cause. If you are a parent who calls someone fat and your… Read more »

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you’re rich already..don’t be sensitive [Reply]manmargs Reply:October 3rd, 2012 at 10:17 AMjust because she`s rich, bawal na maging sensitive? weird… [Reply]CVS Reply:October 3rd, 2012 at 11:06 AMwhut?? [Reply]Guest Reply:October 3rd, 2012 at 11:35 AMp****** ina mo. rich people know that money when you have it does not compare with the value of the truth, loyalty and love.  you can have all the money in the world and get it selling your soul to the devil. [Reply]Jules Reply:October 3rd, 2012 at 6:36 PM” you’re rich already..don’t be sensitive” <–  Napa 'huh?' ako at natawa ako. Sorry Gabby Joven. 🙂 Pero, hindi… Read more »

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manmargs

just because she`s rich, bawal na maging sensitive? weird…

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p****** ina mo. rich people know that money when you have it does not compare with the value of the truth, loyalty and love.  you can have all the money in the world and get it selling your soul to the devil.

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Jules


you’re rich already..don’t be sensitive” <–  Napa 'huh?' ako at natawa ako. Sorry Gabby Joven. 🙂 Pero, hindi naman robot si Ms. Chuvaness. And so are you. 

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What does your comment have to do w/ anything?

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don’t be so sensitive..dang

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@okasanrj

Good Morning Ms. C.i will share on my fb page, hope its okay. Thank you 🙂

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CVS Reply:

yes

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Kirina Landipa

and I am much more than a number on a scale!!! pak!!! – i rest my case!

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Ching Reply:

Very well said! Damn those bullies.

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Ching

Very well said! Damn those bullies.

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