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Besides my own mother whom I call “Mom”, there’s Mommy, who is really my friend Jude’s mom.
I just realized I didn’t know her name until she died last Sunday.

Jude's mommy at Fat Michael's Place

You may have seen her at Fat Michael’s Place many years ago or at The Frazzled Cook sitting on the couch and reading the paper. She may have given you the paper if she sensed you were interested in it.

I was in bed in Tokyo, when I got a text from Jude that said, “Are you awake?”
Jude never texts in the morning.
“Yes why?”
“Mommy’s gone.”

Thank God for Viber, which I’d installed only a few days ago.
I spoke to Jude for 28 minutes and found out Mommy died at home at night after a headache and vomiting.
She was pronounced dead on arrival at the nearest hospital. There were no tubes, no blood. She died a kind death.
There was no autopsy.

That day I struggled to think what is Mommy’s name and couldn’t figure it out. That’s because when I met her, she instantly warmed up to me. And I said to her, “What do I call you, tita?”
“Call me Mommy,” she said.
And so I called her Mommy.

Would you believe she never had to dye her hair?
She loved Olay, which I gladly supplied her with.
She walked to church daily and was a devotee of Our Lady.
She had a few close calls with death. I remember visiting her in the hospital.
Last Christmas she gave the boys plush toys, which they called Wrinkles and Monty.

Wrinkles and Monty at Quincy

Whenever I had an extra heavy problem, I would ask her to pray for me. And she would say, “I pray for you everyday.”
Every time I saw her she would greet me with a hug. When I left she would say, “I love you anak.”
I had to remind myself not to compliment her on her wardrobe, because the last time I said she had a cute jacket on, she took it off and gave it to me.

When Mommy died, Jude found a piece of paper she had scribbled on.
It read: “If and when I die, I would like to inform my or our friends and relatives…”

Scanned Image

I was touched to see my name and Jeroen’s at number 2.
On the day she died, Jeroen passed by the wake at Loyola in Guadalupe and sent me this photo.
Now I know her name.

Mommy

When I arrived at NAIA on Monday night, I went straight to the funeral parlor.
I was relieved that Mommy looked so beautiful in her Vivienne Tam dress.
“I’m so glad you took care of her,” I told Jude.
I don’t need to wax poetic about Mommy. She knows I love her and I know she loves me.

P.S. Jude mentioned a woman named Chary Lagdameo who would pick up Mommy to go to church every Sunday.
We have been trying to contact her before Mommy’s cremation on Saturday. We don’t want Mrs. Lagdameo to pass by on Sunday to find out Mommy is gone.
If any one of you should know her, please tell Mrs. Lagdameo about Naty Mancuyas.

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woah. i know her! alam ko lang mabaet sia na friend ng mom ko from church!  dra.mancuyas she’s a dentist ata? im not sure. i remember before when she used to live here in manila pa. she was friends with my mom who’s an AP apostoleship of prayer) member too at st joseph parish masangkay. this is sad. .i have to tell this to my mom. hay grbe mejo ka sad to. again i remmebr na nag ivite pa sia for us to go to fat Micheals na resto ng son nia. nuon pa yun ! pero naalal ko pa! gbre kinalabutan… Read more »

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JP Singson

love this post. got me teary-eyed cecile. =*(

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Very beautifully written,so easy to see why she was loved.From myself and all your friends at Yo,Jude we love you and know she will be with you always,:) Rest in peace Natividad.

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Jude Lopez Mancuyas Reply:

Thanks Karen. I will see you later at the game.
BTW, Cecile, Karen is one of my friends playing on Yoville. hehe

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Thanks Karen. I will see you later at the game.
BTW, Cecile, Karen is one of my friends playing on Yoville. hehe

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aww, may she rest in peace. this is so touching <3 

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aw. this made me tear up a bit! she’s now one of ur angels ms. c! 🙁

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cecille chary lagdameo is my dads sister, contact natalya and she will get into contact with her she lives next door

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CVS Reply:

thanks daniel. she has been informed already

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cecille chary is my tita contact natalya she will get in contact with her she lives next door.  its daniel lagdameo

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joeker73

My condolences goes out to your friend Jude. She is a very kind lady, she always has a warm greeting whenever I would dine in Fat Michaels or frazzled cook.  May her soul rest in peace.

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my sincerest condolences to you, jude and the rest of her loved ones. we always see her when we dine at fat michael’s.  she was kind and she always try to help around.  dining at fat michael’s with her around was like dining in your grandparents’ home where your grandma would prepare the food with much love and care.

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Condolence and prayers for the repose of her soul. 

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my sincerest condolences to you and your friend.  I remember meeting her when i was in frazzled cook a few years ago. she came to our table and had a chat with us.  we had a very nice conversation and really thought she was such a sweetheart

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This is sad. Rest in peace to your mommy dear.

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Ana Maria Zamora

🙁 I’m crying. This is sweet

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Ms. C, what time did she die? I just realized she died on the first Sunday of the month. I know about the first Saturday of the month promise for Our Lady of Mt. Carmel. 🙂 

That said, she is truly loved by God to have passed peacefully, kindly. Which is what we could all only hope and aspire for. I offer my sincere prayers to Jude and the loved ones his mother left behind. Thanks for posting her name, that way I can include her in my prayers. 

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A lovely tribute post. My sincere condolences to you and to your friend Jude.

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This is a loving tribute to my wonderful mother written by her other daughter and my friend. I never knew that her acts of selflessness, kindness and warmth had touched people far and wide till I received phone calls and messages from Australia, Japan, Middle East and the US. It taught me a valuable lesson that you need not have money, fame, or influence to be appreciated.All you need is LOVE.FAREWELL and THANK YOU MOMMY.Till we meet again. [Reply]Kitty Go Reply:November 7th, 2012 at 7:01 PMjude—-i;m so sorry about your mother but she did go in the fastest and most… Read more »

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jude—-i;m so sorry about your mother but she did go in the fastest and most painless way. we could only wish for a life like hers. 

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Anthony Prudencio

My condolences and prayers for the repose of her soul, Jude. We will be offering mass for her. I learned about the news from Cecile the other night (sadly, my cousin passed away also last Monday morning). – Anthony

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I cant help but shed a few tears over this, I would see “Mommy” at Fat Michael’s (college days, I brought deserving suitors there for dinner, the last being my husband) and Frazzled Cook (with my husband for when we fancy something special) every time, by the door welcoming us as if we were her daughter/son coming home. I don’t know her personally but I will always remember her with fondness, maybe even still imagine her by the door as if she’s still there. 

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