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He’s just not into you—at all
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I don’t wanna put a girl down when she’s already down, but frankly, she could’ve used these presents.

He's Just Not That Into You
He's Just Not That Into You

I had a gay “boyfriend” in college. It was so innocent. He was tall, cute, and dressed better than everyone else.
He said “I love you” on the phone but never DTRed (defined the relationship). I waited for our first kiss to happen (it didn’t). When I tried to hug him, he said, “This feels awkward.”

It was the ’80s, he loved The Communards and Bronski Beat. He wore makeup better than me. Then the makeup got thicker. He started to wear skirts and fake fur.
Then one night, I saw someone cuter. I made a mental note to make that boy my next boyfriend. Two years later, he was mine. He turned out to be a bastard, but at least he was a real guy (I think).
I’ve had my share of bad boyfriends, but luckily I married the right one. Some say you have to kiss a few frogs to get your prince.

I was 17 when it happened, not 27. So I don’t understand why the pretty young thing who could get any guy she wants chose to be with this guy whom the whole world knows is gay. Even I tried to warn her via blog entries: You’re making a mistake. Look at the signs. He’s just not into you. I don’t care if he has a son. I can name you ten other gay men with kids, some of them happily married, quite frankly.

At first we thought it was a publicity stunt to gain more endorsements via “love team.” And then, upon talking to insiders, we found out you really did love him, but his heart and mind (and body) were elsewhere. I won’t kick you when you’re down because you wasted two years of your life. But it didn’t have to happen because you’re young, and pretty and have a choice. You’re not a teenager and this is not your first boyfriend.

If he did lead you on, then he is a mean, screwed up user. You deserve an apology, and he should never lead any other woman or the public to believe that he is straight.
I’m not a fan, but I’m on your side because I have been there.
It’s a sad thing, as a public figure you have to wash your dirty laundry in public. How humiliating for the public to know that you wasted years on a lie.
Here’s hoping that you move on like I did. There is life after investing your time, emotions, and heart in a gay man. You have everything ahead of you. As for him, I don’t really know.

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Julie Vilbar

she probably knew he was gay, but Piolo led her to believe that he is a changed man, kaya nga sabi niya nagtiwala siya ng sobra. 7 chances given, naku love na nya talaga. 
The sad part is, malakas para kay Piolo ang kamandag ng kabaro nya.  
I still admire KC for having the courage to air her side.  Though hurt, she was able to exercise prudence during the interview.  Masuerte ka pa rin Piolo. 

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Todjikid

I think Piolo will lose some of his endorsements, but he will gain some…like…
McCormick condiments…e.g. paminta “durugin mo man, masarap pa rin.”

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Selena Santiago

I just wish people would stop comparing Kc with Carmina, although they may or may not have gone through the same experience in the name of L-O-V-E, they still are two very different personalities . And two very different people with different personalities certainly have their own different ways of coping with pain.  I just hope that people would stop making fun of the pain that these two have gone through. Especially Carmina and Rustom… they have nothing to do with this issue at all.  My two cents worth on this issue , if you’ll allow me, KC is genuine… Read more »

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Alden

KC is like Kris Aquino who dignifies bad choices and decision by going public when it turns sour.  Surely the public is interested and curious with what went on but, it is what the public can do. At end of it all,  KC will realize that her foolish acts will soon disappeared and will soon be replaced with another celebrity confession.   With regard to Piolo, fans cannot demand his head, what he does personally is something we should leave out.  Let him decide for himself, name calling and speculating will not improve status of homophobia in the Philippines.

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Piolo will probably let the “9 days wonder” run its course. Best for him not to counter KC’s rants. He will “out” in his own time…but I’m not holding my breath.

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HAHAHA!!! Pwede.

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i wonder how the ‘3rd party’ involved felt when he saw that interview. 
i can’t say super kawawa siya, because like she said, she wanted it.
but i guess, when you’re dating piolo and he looks at you like you’re in your own personal movie and makes you feel like carrie bradshaw, baka lumabo rin paningin mo. open discussion yan sa office meetings namin, and we are all in agreement: kahit one time lang, piolo. pwede pa rin. haha

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Whether you’re 27 or 17 or even 47, we all do stupid things for love. And unfortunately sometimes, we fall in love with odd people. I guess sometimes, we think we’re worth it too much, (not in an arrogant way, but in an idealistic, hopeful way way) that we end up challenging impossible situations–or at least, situations that have given us hope despite the challenge. While many may criticize why she went public about the break-up, maybe it was her way to cope. And we all have to give her room for that methinks. You have to give her credit… Read more »

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Whether you’re 27 or 17 or even 47, we all do stupid things for love. And unfortunately sometimes, we fall in love with odd people.

I guess sometimes, we think we’re worth it too much, (not in an arrogant way, but in an idealistic, hopeful way way) that we end up challenging impossible situations–or at least, situations that have given us hope despite the challenge. But we all live and learn and hopefully become better and kinder because of this.

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Well, love is blind so whatever warning signs there might have been at the beginning of the relationship, she might have missed it all or have turned a blind eye because of  “love”.  On the brigther side, she’s done with it.  She can move on now.  I guess that relationship is what you will label as “charge it to painful experience”.

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Well, love is blind so whatever warning signs there might have been at the beginning of the relationship, she might have missed it all or have turned a blind eye because of  “love”.  On the brigther side, she’s done with it.  She can move on now.  I guess that relationship is what you will label as “charge it to painful experience”.

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Well, love is blind so whatever warning signs there might have been at the beginning of the relationship, she might have missed it all or have turned a blind eye because of  “love”.  On the brigther side, she’s done with it.  She can move on now.  I guess that relationship is what you will label as “charge it to painful experience”.

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ricca

KC, if you lived in a bubble, I would understand. Kaso, nasa showbiz ka mismo with full access to information. Plus your mother and everybody else should’ve told you that he was gay. I’m not even in Manila and the gay rumors(or truth) echoes here.Anu ba yan!Sadly, the interview drama is by far pinakaconvincing act na by KC vs her movie acting.Sorry.

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well said…nice entry 🙂

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strudel186

I thought this post was about ASSUNTA DE ROSSI and JULES LEDESMA…

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Alen Reply:

HAHAHA!!! Pwede…

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Alen

HAHAHA!!! Pwede…

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Minapolitte

hmm, i just saw the interview. i feel bad for both of them. however, the interview reaks of publicity all around. i mean, si tito boy major makeup pero she hardly had any on. was it to make her look haggard and stressed. to make her look like a simple girl (she may be, i dunno) and make her look like the “victim” of the situation? kakaawa nga sya, but it was HER CHOICE to stay with him after all the “issues” he/they had. but her out-ting him was just plain wrong. kahit na ba it’s common knowledge na that… Read more »

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James

The long and short of this should have been for all the involved parties to have kept to themselves.  Piolo certainly did that for whatever reason we may attribute it.  KC on the other hand chose to make it public.  Publicly announcing a breakup is one thing, blurting out insinuations and pouring one’s heart out in public is another.  The latter obviously isn’t as dignified, much less civil by any standard.   But, KC is young and has much to learn.  But then again, she should have been counseled wisely by those who allege to care for her, rather than… Read more »

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sansan

Just to remind everyone, Ricky Martin, Ellen De Generes, and Neil Patrick Harris came out when their careers were already dying.  Then their careers got revived after they came out.  I think it was the same for Aiza Seguerra and Rustom Padilla.  I have yet to see a big star at the height of his/her career come out.  It will definitely be too risky for Piolo. [Reply]Topaz Horizon Reply:December 1st, 2011 at 9:51 PMActually, not exactly correct. Ellen came out at the height of her career–she had a very successful sitcom– but when she came out, the show’s ratings dropped… Read more »

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Actually, not exactly correct. Ellen came out at the height of her career–she had a very successful sitcom– but when she came out, the show’s ratings dropped dramatically, it ended and she couldn’t find work for 5 years. Si Ricky Martin naman came out when he didn’t have a career anymore so it was too late–no one really cared. It hardly made headlines the way Ellen’s coming out did. Neil Patrick Harris came out in the middle of the revival of his career–he was in How I Met Your Mother when he addressed the issue head on. He didn’t ignore… Read more »

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lili

She is the new Carmina. 😀

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Okilah

Haaaay Papa P… tama na ang pagiging pamintang durog. Hehehehe
Maging malaya na kayo ni “M”. 

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kookabura

One thing is for sure: Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. By a closet gay.

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