I don’t wanna put a girl down when she’s already down, but frankly, she could’ve used these presents.
I had a gay “boyfriend” in college. It was so innocent. He was tall, cute, and dressed better than everyone else.
He said “I love you” on the phone but never DTRed (defined the relationship). I waited for our first kiss to happen (it didn’t). When I tried to hug him, he said, “This feels awkward.”
It was the ’80s, he loved The Communards and Bronski Beat. He wore makeup better than me. Then the makeup got thicker. He started to wear skirts and fake fur.
Then one night, I saw someone cuter. I made a mental note to make that boy my next boyfriend. Two years later, he was mine. He turned out to be a bastard, but at least he was a real guy (I think).
I’ve had my share of bad boyfriends, but luckily I married the right one. Some say you have to kiss a few frogs to get your prince.
I was 17 when it happened, not 27. So I don’t understand why the pretty young thing who could get any guy she wants chose to be with this guy whom the whole world knows is gay. Even I tried to warn her via blog entries: You’re making a mistake. Look at the signs. He’s just not into you. I don’t care if he has a son. I can name you ten other gay men with kids, some of them happily married, quite frankly.
At first we thought it was a publicity stunt to gain more endorsements via “love team.” And then, upon talking to insiders, we found out you really did love him, but his heart and mind (and body) were elsewhere. I won’t kick you when you’re down because you wasted two years of your life. But it didn’t have to happen because you’re young, and pretty and have a choice. You’re not a teenager and this is not your first boyfriend.
If he did lead you on, then he is a mean, screwed up user. You deserve an apology, and he should never lead any other woman or the public to believe that he is straight.
I’m not a fan, but I’m on your side because I have been there.
It’s a sad thing, as a public figure you have to wash your dirty laundry in public. How humiliating for the public to know that you wasted years on a lie.
Here’s hoping that you move on like I did. There is life after investing your time, emotions, and heart in a gay man. You have everything ahead of you. As for him, I don’t really know.