chuvaness
Goodbye friend
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seen zone

I just learned this term today when I reached out to an old friend through Viber and saw that she had seen my message and not replied back. I also saw that she was online.
We didn’t have a fight. We had just lost touch for many years because we live in different countries.

We were such good friends back in the ’90s when I was in New York. We helped each other through really bad times and I have always fond memories of her. We used to talk a lot on the phone, long before Viber and Skype came around. And for some reason, we lost touch.
I started to miss her and recently found her on Instagram, but she’s not really into social media. She rarely updates. So I messaged her and told her I missed her. She replied and that was that.

Now I feel like I need to talk to her again because I have some questions and I need to let her know what’s going on. Viber is funny because it gives you contacts you didn’t know you had. So I found her on Viber and reached out. But for whatever reason, she didn’t respond to me and it hurts so much it makes me cry.

Crying Miffy

I decided to delete her info on my phone so I won’t be tempted to contact her again and feel bad all over again.
I have no ill feelings towards her. I just wish her the best and prayed for her. I hope she is OK.
I am guilty of cutting off people but only those who have done really bad things to me.
She and I have never fought so it makes me feel so sad, I spent half the day in bed. And I can write this because she doesn’t read my blog anyway.

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superfilthy

Experienced the same thing just recently too. I don’t know why social media “terms” are somewhat justifying something so cruel. Let’s be ok and move on…

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J Eezzle 2 da Mizzle

hugs

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One of my cousins blocked me on IG. I knew because I couldn’t even send a request and there’s also an app to confirm that. After that I blocked her on all social media accounts. We didn’t fight at all. Though her mom (my aunt) always send me gifts and sometimes buy my requests. I am not sure if it has something to do with that.

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cutedoc

had a close friend, previously it was a seen zone, now its delivered zone… she doesn’t open the messages i am sending…

how i wish i have the liberty to tell everything, but i still keep that silence, yet i am the aggrieved end.

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Angeli Aspen

I had the same experience with a college friend of mine, it hurts because some of my best memories were with her. I messaged her, commented on some of her Facebook statuses (which she deleted), at first I thought I was paranoid. Kept reaching out but was ignored to no avail.

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paderewski

another theory is she could have popped up in your viber except that maybe the number you have is obsolete but is still listed under her contact details in your phone. and this number is now assigned to a new subscriber who doesnt know you hence no reply. this has happened to me before with friends’ old numbers popping up in my viber.

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Grace

How long ago was your message? Happened to me before. My friend sent a message in Whatsapp. I read it while I was half asleep and didn’t reply. I completely forgot about her message until she messaged me again. Don’t be quick to jump to conclusions (although I’m like this often too :))! [Reply]CVS Reply:March 20th, 2016 at 3:11 PMwhat’s app is different from Viber. It can register “read” even though it wasn’t. Viber is different. The reason why I know something is wrong is because I knew her very well. And there are layers of things that I can’t… Read more »

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BRian

I guess everyone has that someone who we “used to know”.

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Strudel

strudel. Ms. C! Please don’t be too hasty in cutting off bridges! There can be a lot of reasons why she did not respond – she may just be having some troubled times and didn’t feel like replying, too sick to reply, or perhaps didn’t really see your msg (kids fiddling with phones), etc. I’ve missed many a msg because my son played with my phone, and didn’t reply to emails when I gave birth then totally forgot about them. Give them time ­čÖé

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Alma theresa Dizon

Oh,same thing with me., she unfollow me and i don’t know the reason behind that.

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CVS Reply:

were you super close friends?

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jane samson

I also have a friend who lives in Texas who just suddenly stopped communicating with me. I was clueless until I’ve found out from another friend that she had a personal problem with her husband. I just assumed that she doesn’t want to talk about it and she was afraid that I might ask her. It’s sad for me because during the time that i had my own marital problem it was her whom I confided and she was there for me. I also wanted to do the same for her but sadly she did not reach out. I’m hoping… Read more »

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oh_fudge

cecile, I suggest you read this:

http://www.more.com/relationships/friend-who-got-away

kind of related

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In my experience, you don’t ignore messages. We’ve never met and you don’t know me but you always reply to my private messages and emails. We live in different countries, and I know you’re very busy too. You haven’t seen zoned me— to think that I am just your reader, and not even your close friend. Thank you Cecile.

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CVS Reply:

thank you for that. I appreciate it

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BrazoDeMercdes

Happened to me too. Till now I never know the reason why that former friend just stopped communicating with me. It’ll get better. You will in time move on. Although there will be times that you will wonder what happened.

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Don’t unfriend yet. It might be the wrong number on Viber. It has happened to me before. I hope you guys will be okay.

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Thart21

In my point of view, she might be going through a rough time that she doesn’t want to talk to anyone. It happened to me. During those time I don’t want to talk to anyone but still read messages but didn’t reply. Still checking FB friends but not posting status anymore. You will never know she might be reading your blog also.
It might be me. Joke lang po.

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One Friend

breaking up with a close friend is more painful than breaking up with a lover. experienced the same thing before. thankfully, we were able to talk and patch things up. i didn’t give up on her despite the many times she ignored me.

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goodbye to you

This happened to me too. It’s really very painful. For me there were many questions, aside from the why’s and what can i do to fix this, it really smarts when you get shut out of their lives without any warning.

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oso

i think the more correct term is seenzoned

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Belle Reply:

seriously?

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oso Reply:

yes, like “friendzoned” because it’s used as a verb. As in, “poor Chuva, her text was seenzoned.”

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Belle

seriously?

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oso

yes, like “friendzoned” because it’s used as a verb. As in, “poor Chuva, her text was seenzoned.”

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Friendly Human

Happened to me when someone I treasure and fought for unexpectedly ignored me and all. It has been 4 years or so. Whew.

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