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Fat but not exactly fabuluous
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By Dinna Vasquez

I just watched a video where plus-sized YouTuber Elayne Peddy talked about her four-day trip to El Nido, Palawan which she described as the “worst four days of my life.”
According to Peddy, she was called everything from “fat” to “black monkey” in the four days that she stayed in the island.
Groups of people would turn to look at her, pointing and laughing. A vendor selling souvenirs held her stomach, laughing and saying, “Fat, fat, fat.” Tricycle drivers charged her double because she was fat.

Elayne Peddy

Peddy said she went to Metro Manila and Cebu where “everything was okay.” It was only in El Nido where she felt bullied, although she said she didn’t want to use that word.
The video is very difficult to watch. I actually couldn’t finish it because I wanted to hug Peddy and tell her, “It’s okay. You are beautiful.”

Peddy and her friends went to El Nido because they heard so much about the beauty of the place.
“It was like being in paradise,” said Peddy.
However, she was not able to see El Nido’s attractions because during the day, she preferred to stay at the hotel than being laughed at outside.

As a plus-size person who has been overweight all my life, I know how Peddy feels. I’ve learned how to ignore children pointing at me while giggling and saying, “Taba, taba.” I avoid family reunions so I don’t get sassy with titas who will point out that I’m overweight.

Tumaba T-shirt

Truck drivers will stop to point out what is obvious: I’m fat. Many thin people seem to be under the impression that fat people don’t know they’re carrying extra pounds. We do. We just don’t feel to need to apologize for it. In fact, when I take the UV Express vans, I volunteer to pay two fares, not one, to avoid unnecessary and unwanted remarks.
So while watching Peddy’s video, I knew she wasn’t exaggerating or lying while telling her story.

Earlier this week, actor Wentworth Miller was the subject of a fat-shaming meme showing his Prison Break photo next to one of him with extra pounds and the caption, “When you break out of prison and find out about McDonald’s monopoly…”

Miller went on Facebook to explain, but not in the way body shamers expected him to.
“In 2010, at the lowest point in my adult life, I was looking everywhere for relief/comfort/distraction. And I turned to food. It could have been anything. Drugs. Alcohol. Sex. But eating became the one thing I could look forward to. Count on to get me through. There were stretches when the highlight of my week was a favorite meal and a new episode of TOP CHEF. Sometimes that was enough. Had to be. And I put on weight. Big f–king deal.”

The photo of Miller wearing the red shirt was taken in 2010.

Wentworth

He continued:
“Now, when I see that image of me in my red T-shirt, a rare smile on my face, I am reminded of my struggle. My endurance and my perseverance in the face of all kinds of demons. Some within. Some without. Like a dandelion up through the pavement, I persist. Anyway. Still. Despite. The first time I saw this meme pop up in my social media feed, I have to admit, it hurt to breathe. But as with everything in life, I get to assign meaning. And the meaning I assign to this/my image is strength. Healing. Forgiveness. Of myself and others.”

Yes, fat people like to eat. We take up more space. But we’re also human and most of us try to be productive citizens, we’re just heavier.

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Yes you’re right Ms. CV it’s a culture thing and not really exclusive to the rural and uneducated and although NOT really exclusive to the Filipinos it is very much prevalent here. It’s reflective of the desire to fit a certain mold hence the obsession with fair skin, pointed nose, slender body etc etc. Anyone who doesn’t fit it gets ridiculed and everyone is always shocked when someone is ok with not fitting the mold.

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leirs

i was always fat shamed by my Ex to the point na I didn’t care anymore at namanhid na ako.. Stacey and Dana of plump pinay (feeling ko close kami) made me realize that I should never let his words define me and its true so what kung payat ang bagong jowa nya mukha namang paa payat sya sa akin pero di nya ikinaganda yun.

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besYS Reply:

Lol!

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besYS

Lol!

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Hein S

Many Pinoys are UNEDUCATED.

Simple as that.

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besYS

I can very much relate. Yes, I am Fat. Fortunately, I had a wonderful Father who was so supportive and who once told me, “Be kind, be successful in life and help others along the way. Yun mga tumutukso sa iyo, may Karma para sa kanila.” There’s one story, I think mid ’90s yata, I was in Landmark parking area, as I was waiting for my 22 yr. old brother who was getting our car. Meron 2 tambay who started laughing when they saw me. #1 tambay: ” pare, lumilindol! ” ( laughing) #2 tambay: ” meron nga!” ( laughing)… Read more »

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MDinna

Hugs, Bes. My daughter always says, “Mom, kahit mukhang paa ang nagsabing fat ka, it still hurts.”
Thank you for sharing your story. Naluha ako. Love you. I wanna meet your brother.

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besYS

Awww! Thanks Dinna! My brother is in Vietnam with his family. He works for INTEL.
Naluha rin ako, lalo na for Peddy and Miller. Grabe maka tukso ang mga tao!

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Val

I’d love to buy and wear that shirt! Lol right back at ya, tita! ?

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CVS Reply:

I think Gang Badoy sold them

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Val Reply:

Thanks! Will wear that in our next family reunion! ?

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Lorraine Villanueva

I pay for two too in tricycles, extra 20 pesos is better than a glare stare from my seatmate 🙂

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CVS Reply:

LOL

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