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Last night before going to bed, I saw pictures of Rachel Alejandro and Carlos Santamaria’s wedding on Girlie Rodis’ Twitter.

Rachel and Carlos Santamaria

It may have entered my consciousness because I had a dream about a weddingβ€”my own.
In my dream I was 40 years old and worried I was going to miss the last train. So I agreed to marry a single friend of mine that will remain unnamed. On the day of our wedding I found out my friend was gay and in love with another person.
So my wedding was called offβ€”but how to tell the guests it wasn’t happening? My mom’s advice: let’s just announce it in church and feed the guests.
But I still wanted to get married. So I called an ex-boyfriend of mine (we were supposed to marry in real life) and asked him to marry me. He didn’t want, so I forced and forced him. By the time he agreed it was 7 PM, while the wedding was at 8 PM in Malate.
I looked out of our house in Greenhills and saw this huge traffic jam and wondered if we would make it in time.

I woke up relieved to see my husband of 10 years next to me and relieved that my dad “forced” me to marry him.
I wasn’t forced-forced. I was having cold feet maybe two months before the wedding after having seen this Meryl Streep movie, “The Bridges of Madison County,” where a lonely wife contemplates leaving her family for a love affair with a photographer visiting her town.

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I told my dad, “What if I meet someone when I’m 50?”
My dad said, “Marriage is a gamble.” He told me to marry Jeroen because he knew my track record of falling for the wrong guy based on their looks. He said, “If you don’t marry him, you will end up with the wrong guy.”
And so I consider it a blessing to see my husband’s face everyday and every night. I’m glad I listened to my dad.

Jeroen and I, November 25, 2000

My dad told me this fantastic story about being invited to a wedding where the bride and groom didn’t show up. The guests just ended up eating the food at the reception because sayang the food.
Have you ever experienced being invited to a wedding that was called off? Without naming names, what happened and how did they handle it?

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weird I thought the first comment didn’t post so I repeated it…just delete one of it na lang…

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Hey Chuvaness, I only just read this. I hope your dream was not a reflection on Rachel’s wedding. People are funny. I keep getting comments like, “Buti umabot pa si Rachel.” “Dapat naman ikasal na sya.” or more such nonsense like getting married at 37 is semi tragic :-(. I believe if people married when they are ready and not from pressures of society and family there would be less divorces. Rachel has many friends who married in their early 20s are now separated and on to their 2nd or 3rd marraige. Rachel never really believed in marraige till she… Read more »

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Hey Chuvaness…I only just read this…hahaha you are too funny. You know I find it funny that some people’s comments on Rachel’s wedding as like “ay buti umabot pa sya..like getting married at 37 is somehow almost too late..” I think people should get married when they are ready. Rachel has many friends who got married in their early 20s and are now separated or on to their 2nd or 3rd marraige… Rachel never really wanted to be married… but when she met Carlos..her view changed ..and the wedding was really intimate and lovely..I love them both and hope that… Read more »

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kat

Pwede pala walang flowers while walking down the aisle? I thought it was one of those mandatory requirements :p

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CVS Reply:

i had a bouquet. i offered them to my lola.

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Guest

Umm how do I type this without being too mean? An “ok-looking” friend of mine was supposed to marry her longtime boyfriend (both Chinese). Super swerte si girl ha, boy would shower her with all of these flowers, really treat her well – talagang lahat kami naiinggit when we see the gifts! Boyfriend’s mom made them pa-feng shui and found out that potential daughter in law is not good feng shui for her son. Apparently spineless son listens to the mom and calls the wedding off. In hindsight pwede na rin — kesa naman she finds out how spineless he… Read more »

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jao

This a true story in cebu city… It happen awhile back but it’s so telenovelish that people kept talking about it for months and it ended up in the local news too.

checkout the link for the complete info:

http://www.gmanews.tv/story/81744/SunStar-Would-be-bride-sues-runaway-groom-in-Cebu

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Nicole

My cousin was supposed to get married to her fiancee, pero di parin siya nakakagetover sa ex husband niya. On the day of the wedding, the ex husband showed up. They are now happily married. πŸ˜‰

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CVS Reply:

wow! how romantic, hehe

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Tin_tin_silva

is you wedding dress is Kimona inspired? Like it!

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CVS Reply:

kimono

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Big Mother

just curious, even if it was a dream, was the ex, gay talaga? hahaha…or you were dreaming of a gay friend na crush mo? hihihi…love the wedding pix! here’s to more years of togetherness…got married in the same church too almost a year before you!

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CVS Reply:

no not gay πŸ™‚

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A couple who had 2 different religions (both non-Catholic) was about to get be married. When it was time for the pamamanhikan, their parents disagreed about where they will marry, shouting match talaga. No one wanted to give in. Sad to say, hindi na natuloy wedding nila, they broke off after that…

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Vastro2

Your wedding picture is lovely. You look lovely. I think this is the first time I have seen a pic of you smiling and you look radiant. You seem to have a wonderful, rarefied life and a doting spouse. Smile more πŸ™‚

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hgp

We are based in the US and my younger brother’s fiance was in the Philippines. In 2005, couple of months before his wedding my brother called off the wedding because the girl has not changed. She’s been sleeping around with different guys (makati). My bro has been blind about it, but gave the girl nth and final chance thinking that she will change. The girl ran with all the money my family gave for the prep of the wedding. Same brother got engaged again in 2009 and was supposed to get married august last year on his birthday. Friends and… Read more »

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Leah_dy1979

my sister was engaged with her fiance’ we so love. his family is close to our family. we like the fiance so much. he is big (like fat big) but mestizo. he is perfect for us. 2 weeks before the wedding, on the day of the despedida de soltera. my sister just called it off. we were all WHY? WHY? she just fall out of love. she even threatened us that if push her on this wedding, the day after the wedding will be divorce. so it was called off. she had the best designer in time, grand wedding, a… Read more »

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Tots

You’re quite a vision, you have chic practically written on your gown! Lovely couple too… πŸ™‚

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CVS Reply:

thank you πŸ™‚

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Guest

P.S. I SUPER LOVE YOUR WEDDING DRESS!!! This is my dream wedding dress…

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Gretchen

So Ms. C., you mean finorced mo lang ung Mr. Straten to marry you the same day?! di ko masyado gets ung story ehh. salamat!!! – kung finorced mo, buti naman at handa cya at nag yes cya sa’yo. hehehe

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CVS Reply:

uhm, please read carefully. it was a DREAM only about my ex-boyfriend not my husband

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your blog is addicting!! :)… speaking of weddings, my youngest brother is getting married the same day Prince William marries Kate Middleton… The tita of my bestfriend was getting married and made my bestfriend her maid of honor , unfortunately my friend is in Bacolod and the wedding is in Manila so I stood in for her as the maid of honor… in short, it was her name on the invitation but my face on the wedding day. The wedding wasn’t called off but was delayed for quite a while because the maid of honor was LATE… I lived in… Read more »

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Elemersglue

Omg, your Mom (wearing the orange gown, right?) looks the same pa rin! Ganda!

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CVS Reply:

my mom, yes, in Inno Sotto in the back

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Maia Nazareno Reply:

agree! tita tita looks exactly the same!

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agree! tita tita looks exactly the same!

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Kai

Read this =) Hell hath no fury than a woman scorned but then again 500,000 is 500,000 =) http://www.sunstar.com.ph/cebu/local-news/2011/04/11/man-faces-p41m-suit-cancelling-wedding-149757

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Pia

In the wedding of one of my second cousins, something like that happened. She got preg and hid it from her and the guy’s family until they could hide it no more. When she started showing, she said the fetus was a few months younger than it really was. Their families forced them to marry and started planning the wedding, timing it so that it would happen before the due date. And they didn’t tell the guests she was preg. Then on the day of the actual wedding, the bride and groom didn’t show up because the groom was rushing… Read more »

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Sab

Not called off, but my uncle got married on the day Ondoy happened (they had to pick that one day in his 40 years of life!). Friends and family from the US and Canada flew in for the occasion, and luckily, most of them were staying at the same hotel as the reception so guests who were able to make it (only 20% of the tables were occupied) were able to crash in their rooms. The hotel was kind enough to give them vouchers for the 80% balance for the food, and they donated the food that was supposed to… Read more »

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Thedownpayment

very nice dress! did you design and make it yourself?

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Dress is by Jessica Ogden

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noonereally

been a long time reader even way back when you had your first blogspot account. from your blogs and pics, jeroen certainly seems like such a great husband and father, very much unlike the husbands and fathers being featured on fashionpulis. reading those blind items make me cringe, but i’m glad to know there are still decent people like jeroen.

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Miss C, the aligning of your paragraph is weird, it’s kinda difficult to read.

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golfing girl

You are so funny! What a nightmare that must have been….
Then looking at your photo, i can imagine how beautiful your wedding was. You are blessed to have 10 years together πŸ™‚

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awww! look at jeroen’s happy face. it’s way happier than winning the lotto.

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texan mom

Curious lang ako if Jeroen knew about you getting cold feet before your wedding and what was his reaction? Good thing your dad made you see the light, you and your husband seem very happy naman eh.

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CVS Reply:

no. he only found out today. haha

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Ella Reply:

lol

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noemi

in one wedding, the bride’s family suspected the groom to be gay, so on the eve of the wedding, they “framed” him by putting a video cam in his room and placing the bestman (whom they suspected to be his lover) in one room. (it was a destination wedding). Needless to say, CONFEERMED nga! and the bride-to-be fainted and cried on her wedding day!

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CVS Reply:

wow!!

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noemi Reply:

parang plot ng movie but it really happened! πŸ˜‰

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shocked guest

I have a friend na planned na yung wedding, they had pre nuptial shots na, etc, then 2 months before the wedding it was suddenly called off because the guy realized na he didn’t love her that way, that he couldn’t see himself spending the rest of his life with her. the guy messaged all the guests that the wedding had been cancelled and that he was willing to reimburse the costs of those who had booked flights na. on the wedding day itself, the girl threw a party in lieu of the wedding for all her guests. in shock… Read more »

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Huneyfaye

Yes, the wedding didn’t push through this one tine the girl pregnant girl found out on tgeir wedding date that her husband to be had other girls. She ran away from the church in her wedding gown, the guy was left waiting in the altar. After 25 years they both have families of their own but their daughter swears by this that her parents one true love is each other. Loving someone is a gamble. This is a true story of my friend’s parents.

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Oh dear. Please don’t freak out.. but I dreamed about you and your husband the other night too. It was a little similar to your dream, but in my dream, you and Jeroen had split up and were with different partners.. but still good friends πŸ™

Not sure what provoked this dream… but anyhow, I’m sure you guys are doing great and are very blessed being together.

Beautiful (wedding?) dress by the way.

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Love the gown πŸ™‚ Such a beautiful couple! One of the things I appreciate in your blog are your stories about you and Jeroen (how you met, how you got together, etc). I gives hope to A LOT of us that there are still wonderful, loving, faithful men out there hehe. Anyway, my discipler has a friend who was suppose to get married but on the day of the wedding, her fiance’ called it off. The groom got cold feet. Parang Sex and the City lang! They’ve broken up after that but the guy realized afterwards that he was a… Read more »

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omnesia

There was this couple who was supposed to get married but they encountered a lot of malas on their wedding day… natuloy naman pero the guy died from a fall and then all their immediate family members started dying one by one… turns out the bride has a half-sister who also got married on the same day as she did, thus the superstition of not getting married within a year or so of an immediate family member was proven to be true. Ay sorry, plot pala ng pelikula ni Kris yun. hahahaha πŸ˜€

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kainez!

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i was about to get married before,pero nung namamanhikan na,i told my parents right there and then[in front of my ‘supposed-to-be-in-laws’] that i didn’t want to.I wasn’t ready yet, i didn’t see myself being married at such a very young age.I also had my reservations and share of what if’s like you and having witnessed failed marriages/unhappy married couples,to sum it all up.Of course they were shocked and all, but if i didn’t muster the courage to make a choice, i would have ended up not showing at the church.:P and i can say i made the right choice.Im happy… Read more »

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bea

just curious, what church is that ms cecile? πŸ™‚ the one with you and mr. van straten

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San Sebastian Church in Quiapo πŸ™‚

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Anonymous

Oh! I remember making those official Roman Catholic Church new millennium symbols back in grade school! As usual everything-how the circle is divided into four colors, what those colors mean, why is the background blue. why it’s circumscribed in a yellow band, etc– has some really long reason I had to memorize for CLE class. But my symbol turned out well I think. It’s easy to do once you figure out how the birds interlock.

Did you read the novel? It’s supposed to be one of the godmothers of all chick-lit.

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curious lang, si Cedric ba yung friend? omg don’t kill me pero i get kilig when you guys tweet each other(specially when he defends you from “trolls”, feel ko yung chemistry! plus ang hot ni Cedric! πŸ™‚

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CVS Reply:

hinde. haha. love him though

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Liezl Aquino Reply:

i love him too! as in!!! πŸ™‚

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Liliwmps

NEVER- SANDY

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Anonymous

more photos of your wedding gown please and are there any shots of the shoes you wore?

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time_connects Reply:

East meets West ang wedding gown ni Ms C. Just like their union. *like*

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time_connects

East meets West ang wedding gown ni Ms C. Just like their union. *like*

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its so nice to read about father’s words of wisdom to their daughters… i’m a daddy’s girl and those late night walks i had with my father when i was a child were one of the best memories.

i am a hopeless romantic…, i love it when people stay committed to each other, it gives us hope na kahit papano, hopefully in the future we will meet our perfect match and grow old together πŸ™‚

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oh the wedding dress!!

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fashionforwardfromGH

love, love,love your wedding dress. v.fashion forward (wink wink) =) but seriously you look so beautiful on that photo.

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OMG! I love your wedding dress! And you both look soooo good! I don’t think you’ve both changed much – just basing on the photos you’ve posted here. πŸ™‚

I always appreciate it when I hear or read about people who’ve been married a while and they don’t have that note of ‘resignation’ in what they say about their married lives or spouses. In an age where couples don’t seem to stay together anymore, nakakatuwa. πŸ™‚ I wish you and Jeroen more happy years, Ms. C. πŸ™‚ Ang galing ng daddy mo. πŸ™‚

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Guest

That was your wedding gown? Bow ako. You’re such an original.

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omnesia Reply:

Hi, offtopic lang: is your profile pic an artwork by Romulo Olazo? I like it πŸ™‚

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Seizan Reyes Reply:

Yes it is by Olazo, part of a series πŸ™‚

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omnesia

Hi, offtopic lang: is your profile pic an artwork by Romulo Olazo? I like it πŸ™‚

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Yes it is by Olazo, part of a series πŸ™‚

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