Why catcalling doesn’t bother me (or my husband)
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DISCLAIMER:
I would like to apologize to everyone who feels offended by the following entry.
It was meant to be a light piece about turning 50 and invisible not an insult to those who are offended by catcalls. Sorry for those offended by Mr. Duterte’s catcall, but I feel that there are more important issues to tackle such as the killings and cursings which have to stop.

A few years ago, I read an article about a woman who was scared to turn 50 and become invisible. I wondered what that meant.
Google the words “50 + women + invisible” and you’ll see what it means.
Basically when you turn 50, you no longer matter. You don’t turn heads the way you used to when you were young. Nobody checks you out.

“I miss being checked out,” I told Dinna a couple of months ago. And then I went to National Bookstore after a press lunch, I was dressed, blowdried and made up. I swear, one of the stock boys checked me out, greeted me, smiled, and said something nice to me. It felt really good.

These days the only one who tells me I’m cute is my son Ben, 14.
In Tokyo, when I wore my Jil Sander x Uniqlo coat and put the hoodie over my head, my sons Ben and Markus hugged me in the cold and said, “Awww, mommy you look so cute.”

These days the only sexual harassment I get is when Jeroen, my husband of 15 years, grabs my ass in the hallway of our dressing room. I still hate it!
Gone are the days when 17-year-old boylets would pick me up at the meatpacking district in New York, 25 years ago.
The last time a stranger flirted with me was in a Footlocker store in New York 2012 (ask Grace) and nearly at Antique Garage in Soho.

Cecile van Straten

That said, I am turning 50 next year. If anybody catcalls me at this point of time, I would be very grateful. I don’t care if it’s a carpentero, seriously. I would not be offended.
The problem with society, said another blogger, is if Alden Richards catcalls you, it’s flattering. But if an ugly guy does it, it’s sexual harassment.
I asked my husband Jeroen how would he feel if President Duterte catcalled me? He said he would laugh. I would too.

Besides, catcalling is so ’70s. Who the hell does that anymore (aside from Mr. Duterte).
What Justin Trudeau or if Sebastian Duterte catcalled you, would you mind?
I certainly wouldn’t.

Sebastian Duterte

Which reminds me, I have to pay for those Baste T-shirts I ordered from Davao.
BRB.

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  • Nina

    Here’s the number one thing wrong with this article: it writes with the mindset that our (women’s) appearance and worth should be validated by men we don’t know. You say you miss being catcalled/checked out because it’s supposedly an affirmation of your physical beauty. By STRANGERS. You’re entitled to your own opinion but I implore you to self-reflect. Perhaps catcalling is a rare instance for you because you don’t walk the streets/commute daily and thus are only exposed to the public/outdoors when you want to be. But there are so many women who take the MRT, take jeeps, etc. who have to endure the taunts of men that they did not ask for.

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    CVS Reply:

    well, you’re right cause I have a driver. In NY I commuted, hence the catcalls.
    But seriously, I don’t find the catcalling offensive. It’s the killing statements that bother me. That’s the real issue for me.

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  • ihavemoreissues

    Catcalling is creepy. We just want to walk down the street (or interview a president) in peace without being harassed. Form of objectification siya eh. And yes, kahit kamukha pa ni Baste Duterte or ni Alden Richards, kadiri ang ma-catcall.

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  • Josef Mari Olaybal

    Quoting my friend on you (she didn’t want to comment here):
    “πŸ‘ CHECK πŸ‘ YOUR πŸ‘ PRIVILEGE πŸ‘”

    Your inability to empathize with other women’s problems in no way discredits them.

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  • Roderick Benga

    Funny post! Benga likes!

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  • besYS

    Cute story! ☺️
    Just like in College reunions – naku ang mga boys panay giving compliment sa girls, nakakatuwa! πŸ˜„
    Btw, malalaman naman if bastusan na ( sapak gusto nila? hehe! )

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  • oh_fudge

    omg. time flies. I still remember you turning 40 and you talked about Oprah (?). you said it wasn’t a big deal, etc.

    also, I think you’re pretty (and mas maputi in person) but I don’t count since it’s more of an adoration than lust. as in “YAASSS QUEEN YAASSS!” lol

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    CVS Reply:

    LOL. you’re so nice talaga. thank you :)))

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  • Jay Delro Lozada

    Love you talaga CVS!!!

    Not being affected or offended by catcalling does not mean na gusto mong magpabastos. πŸ˜€

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    CVS Reply:

    hindi naman bastos ang catcalling. Iba naman yung guy who was rubbing against me sa crowded subway sa NY. Iba na yon!

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    Jay Delro Lozada Reply:

    Yess!! Hahaha ako din I don’t mind being catcalled as long as they do not touch me. LOL

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    CVS Reply:

    tama!

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    shie Reply:

    same here. I’ve posted several comments in my FB to let know others of my stand and of course, to annoy them. My take is that ‘sipol’ is sexual only to the malicious and ‘assuming and feeling ‘ girls. i lose it just thinking a ‘tambay or drnking guys’ sa kanto would actually motivate me to make sumbong to the police. isipin ko pa lang tawang-tawa na ‘ko.

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