Something to think about

he may have “good intentions” but IMO it was not his place to tell her. ’cause you know what? he doesn’t know her. the lady runs/exercises but she suffers from a thyroid problem so it’s difficult for her to lose weight (her husband said that in Good Morning America).

so good for her for standing up for herself.

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TC Reply:
October 5th, 2012 at 1:03 PM

Weight is hard to control with a thyroid problem.  You gain faster than you could lose.

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i gained 10 lbs since last year. people who havent’ seen me for a while would always comment about my weight first. some would even repeat their observation for everyone to hear. i am tempted to say, “ang mataba puede pang pumayat, pero ang pangit, hindi na gaganda” 

btw, can i share this on FB?

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CVS Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 8:11 PM

surely

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It’s amazing that we can’t even agree if this is bullying or not.

We should all be reminded though that polite and politically correct words can be deceiving.

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CVS Reply:
October 4th, 2012 at 6:29 AM

yes to this

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I am fat. Like 20-25 lbs heavier than my I am comfortable with. Malaking bulas ako and I am always the big one among my friends. I am married and I gained more because of pills but I live in Scandinavia so i feel not so fat compare to them. (Lol) I make fun of myself also, kasi accepted ko naman na I am fat. I maybe a overweight but I do exercise/jog every day (then i eat good yummy food after) i have regular check ups just to see if I am healthy and no diabetes or heart problems. I know how to dress according to my figure. Like her, I have a supportive husband, so i Guess as long as a person is comfortable with their weight or appearance, and walang naman inaagrabyado, people need to back off and respect that.

Maybe she gets alot of emails and this time napuno na sya? Or maybe kasi nga its bullying awareness month and sakto may nagmail sa kanya so she decided to let it out? Timing ba.

Anyway, bakit yung mga stars na bulimic before and still super payat ngayon di inaatake ng hate mails? Diba bad influence din yun sa mgayoung people?

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Mrs. Kolca
Twitter: briandelro
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October 4th, 2012 at 9:45 AM

Naku! Like may mga local actors na sobrang payat na. Minsan akala ng young generation, okay lang maging kasing payat nila to the point of risking their health para ma-achieve yun skinny figure!

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This comment came from a friend who’s just killing time watching TV and made this observation.
“Mari Ramos, the CNN meteorologist should lose weight. She’s covering the entire South China Sea with her body.”
So I think the man who sent the email to the newscaster wrote a tactful note compared to what really goes inside their heads.

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I have a bully of an aunt who kept picking on me every time I attend the family reunion. She knows I’m gay and she would always blurt out loudly “O, Jude, kailan ka mag-aasawa?” I finally got fed up and when the time came she had to pop that question again, I told her loudly “Sorry Tita, hindi ko pa kasi nakikita yung tamang lalaking pakakasalan ko.” And it stopped from then on.

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I’m overweight and have struggled with this problem for years. When people call me fat or point out how unhealthy I am, it hurts my feelings. I understand what Jennifer feels, that no matter what you have achieved in life, even if you are a kind person, there will be people out there who will see you only as a fat person. Would you believe, I describe myself as overweight because the word ‘fat’ is just too hurtful. Those who commented here who dismissed Jennifer’s feelings do not know what we overweight people have to go through. It’s a kind of discrimination that ‘s not too obvious. But it is discrimination still. It actually hurts when you are relegated and measured to a mere number on the scale.

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I on the other hand found these comments as a motivation. You know you cannot please everyone but if someone says you gained a lot of weight – makes me double check if I really am. If i dont think I did then I dont give a damn but if it is indeed true, then I do something about it. But I never became anorexic nor bulimic. You know you cannot control other people, but you can control yourself.  

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Nina
Twitter: briandelro
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October 4th, 2012 at 2:32 AM

Not everyone can though. People w/ Hypothyroidism, Cushing’s Syndrome and Polycistic Ovarian Syndrome cannot control their weight gain. Even w/ diet and exercise. And thats just naming a few possible physiological causes of weight gain or the inability to lose weight.

Know your facts before making sweeping statements of what people can and cant do.

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Pink
Twitter: briandelro
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October 4th, 2012 at 8:55 AM

Are you saying that people cannot control themselves? This in in reference to how a person feels by the way. I am not referring to losing weight when I said, “You know you cannot control other people, but you can control yourself” I was referring to a person’s mindset. 

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Nina
Twitter: briandelro
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October 5th, 2012 at 5:02 AM

Try and read again, please. I said there are some people who cannot control weight gain because of conditions/illnesses they may have.

Sure, you can control your mindset. You can have the will to lose weight. But if your own body prevents you from doing such, the will goes away pretty fast.

As ive said, there are ilnesses and medications that can stop people from losing weight, or make them gain weight.

That clear enough for you? Or should I explain again?

at the end of the day, she’s still fat and needs to lose weight. 

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the news anchor appears on tv every day and if her viewers feel unfavorable with her appearance, I think the producer and she should take the comment objectively. no matter how politically correct we are, the bottom line is we have to like what we see on tv or we just switch channel.  I like sharon cuneta but she has let herself go and watching her on her show is just too painful, esp if she has guests who are young and pretty, i mean, she looks like everyone’s mother. just saying.

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Since she’s already defending herself, sana nagbigay man lang siya ng indication that she’s actually taking the steps to be healthy (pero siguro off topic na ‘yun?). I applaud her for standing up against bullies, but it doesn’t end there. Defining your self-worth also includes knowing that a hamburger and french fries 3x a day, 5 days a week just doesn’t work. We should should fight for ourselves but we should also take responsibility for our actions. Pero as I said, baka off topic na ‘yun at wala nang time. Hehe.

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There are a lot of bullies, not just now, but ever since this world has probably began, but what parents and children nowadays fail to do is learn how to cope up with these situations reasonably. The internet has just made the situation more publicly known but it has going on for decades! Even i was bullied when I was a kid, but did I cry? No, I was taught by my parents to hold my self up and prove to those bullies otherwise. But now, parents fight for their children instead of teaching how their children to “fight”. Instead of making their children get a hold of themselves, they go and look for the child who threatened their kid making things worst – 1) their kids look more like wimps 2) they look really immature. On the other side, parents of bullies should also be blamed for their kids behaving as such – e.g. CSA student bullies another child, child fights, parent of the bully points a gun to the bullied child. So really, the root cause of these situations is the parenting styles practiced nowadays – parents being OVERPROTECTIVE of their children.

On the issue of being called fat or ugly, I think it would not matter if you don’t care. And again, the issue was just stretched because her husband posted it on facebook. Now this is an issue of having a overprotective husband. Why have people began being so sensitive nowadays?

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why are people applauding this? the man was not a bully. he didn’t call her names, he was actually very polite. blunt, but still polite. he didn’t post it publicly on his facebook page or anything, it was a private letter. what he is saying is true, being obese is not healthy and he was actually concerned for her and the people who watch her show. her going out being all defensive like this gives out the wrong message that it’s okay to be obese. stop fat sympathy, people.

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Jules Reply:
October 3rd, 2012 at 1:16 PM

I bet not all people are applauding this. Each person has a different opinion. It just so happens that this news anchor lady has her own. It happens to be about relating the letter to bullying.

She clearly stated it is not about her kaya siya nagcocomment. She’s already thick skinned, literally and otherwise, as she said. Sabi nga nya keber na siya sa mga ganyang comments sknya. What she is pointing out is the attitude it can pass on to the younger people. The danger it can cause. If you are a parent who calls someone fat and your children will hear you? Chances are they will do the same once they go to school or even just outside the house. <– This is true.

I felt too that the person who sent the e-mail was genuinely concerned. But then again, let's be realistic: Everyone is entitled to an opinion. 

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don’t be so sensitive..dang

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and I am much more than a number on a scale!!! pak!!! – i rest my case!

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Ching Reply:
October 3rd, 2012 at 7:21 AM

Very well said! Damn those bullies.

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